(hello there, sean o')pry, empathy, etc.

making myself jot fleeting thoughts in an attempt to salvage a bit of "me time," which will probably result in incoherent babble but oh well here i go. in the swirly-swirl-swirl that has been my head recently, two words have managed to stay afloat...

pry - verb
Inquire too inquisitively into a person's private affairs; Use force in order to move or open (something) or to separate (something) from something else

like any non-psychopath (sorry too much SVU), my thoughts are always with those whom i care about and are closest to my heart, even if i'm not always so great at outwardly expressing it. i genuinely care about how they're really-really doing but always run into a wall when it comes to reaching out. since i'm the painfully shy, socially awkward type (says she who bears her soul on a blog), i'm always cautious of crossing the line when i quickly juke past the bullshit of small talk and right to #realtalk, whatever that means (did i do that right?). not liking both when folks pry into my ish and when folks share too much of their own ish, i naturally don't want to pry.


to rephrase in question form: how can i, ask how you are really-really doing, without prying? should i pry? does the level of prying correlate, in any way to some folks, with the level of how much you care about a dear one (family, friend, partner)?

empathy - noun
the ability to understand and share the feelings of another

to put it simply, i'm too empathetic. i need to not so often, "i feel you mang" so much because it really does make a sap out of me. i've been both commended and scolded for having empathy. commended for the obvious fact that it makes me the aforementioned sappy-kind of SOB or more nicely put, understanding. scolded mostly by the teen spirit type because of their "you don't know me!" response. again, similar to the whole concept of pry, i hit a wall because i'm unsure what the healthy level of empathy is.

to rephrase in question form: when is empathy too much?

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